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I got into an arguement with my Mom today.
Apparently I'm a bad person who gets everything handed to her and doesn't try to realize how good she has it.
Also I should pick the major she wants me to pick and then only take the remaining classes to get that major.
My mom wants me to be a librarian or a medical transcriber.
My grandma wants me to be a nurse, an RN.
My grandma pays for me to go to school.
Apparently I don't apperciate this and I shouldn't have told my brother about it. I told him when it first started what was going to happen and we talked about it again just recently when he was complaining about how he's struggling with paying for school.
My grandma told me to tell him she would help him if she could. My mom told me not to. She said my brother isn't that kind of person, that he won't ask for something it has to be given to him.
Then she told me that she wants me to declare a major and only take the classes needed to complete that major. When I told her that grandma is paying for me to become a nurse she freaked out and started screaming at me that I can't be a nurse.
I calmly told her that we've had this conversation, we keep having this conversation and could we please stopped. So she dropped it. Which means in a few days I'll get it from my father for upsetting my mother and I'll need to admit that like always I am wrong and she is right and I should do as she asks because she loves me and is just trying to make sure I don't hurt myself.
Also I need to be very sensitive to how my brother feels because I'm obviously my Aunt's and my Grandma's favorite. I didn't say anything. What could I say? That he is obviously my parents favorite, always has been. Or perhaps that I live with my Grandma, I help her out daily and she's expecting me to because a nurse so I will know what's going on when she is old and need 24 hr care. She's made it clear she wants me to take care of her as much as I can. As for being my Dad's sister's favorite well okay yeah I am. They, my Aunt and Grandma got me a computer for Christmas. They were hoping my brother would use it too and apperently my brother didn't even get a Christmas card. She came to visit a few weeks ago my Aunt, when I wasn't at work or didn't have plan's with my friends or other family I tried to spend time here with her and my Grandma. My brother didn't stop by once. My grandma bought him a jar of his favorite junk food and even though I told him about it he never came up and got it. It just sat her for weeks until she got tired to looking at it and told me to take it back to my parents house for him.
Yet I'm the bad guy here. It's my fault I'm the favorite and all I do is disobey my mom because I'm an insolent ungrateful child.
I hate myself at this moment.
I've been invited to go to New York City with some friends and have requested the days off from work and have said yes I will go. I've almost talked to all my teachers and I've talked to my parents. After this conversation I just want to tell everyone I won't go and instead use the money I've saved up to get ahead on my bills, or to pay one of my own school payments. Part of me thinks I should stop going out on weekends, just concentrate on school and paying all my bills. The maybe I won't be such a horrible person.
I know how that sounds. I'm just semi-depressed lately and this conversation with my Mom's made everything seem worse.
Apparently I'm a bad person who gets everything handed to her and doesn't try to realize how good she has it.
Also I should pick the major she wants me to pick and then only take the remaining classes to get that major.
My mom wants me to be a librarian or a medical transcriber.
My grandma wants me to be a nurse, an RN.
My grandma pays for me to go to school.
Apparently I don't apperciate this and I shouldn't have told my brother about it. I told him when it first started what was going to happen and we talked about it again just recently when he was complaining about how he's struggling with paying for school.
My grandma told me to tell him she would help him if she could. My mom told me not to. She said my brother isn't that kind of person, that he won't ask for something it has to be given to him.
Then she told me that she wants me to declare a major and only take the classes needed to complete that major. When I told her that grandma is paying for me to become a nurse she freaked out and started screaming at me that I can't be a nurse.
I calmly told her that we've had this conversation, we keep having this conversation and could we please stopped. So she dropped it. Which means in a few days I'll get it from my father for upsetting my mother and I'll need to admit that like always I am wrong and she is right and I should do as she asks because she loves me and is just trying to make sure I don't hurt myself.
Also I need to be very sensitive to how my brother feels because I'm obviously my Aunt's and my Grandma's favorite. I didn't say anything. What could I say? That he is obviously my parents favorite, always has been. Or perhaps that I live with my Grandma, I help her out daily and she's expecting me to because a nurse so I will know what's going on when she is old and need 24 hr care. She's made it clear she wants me to take care of her as much as I can. As for being my Dad's sister's favorite well okay yeah I am. They, my Aunt and Grandma got me a computer for Christmas. They were hoping my brother would use it too and apperently my brother didn't even get a Christmas card. She came to visit a few weeks ago my Aunt, when I wasn't at work or didn't have plan's with my friends or other family I tried to spend time here with her and my Grandma. My brother didn't stop by once. My grandma bought him a jar of his favorite junk food and even though I told him about it he never came up and got it. It just sat her for weeks until she got tired to looking at it and told me to take it back to my parents house for him.
Yet I'm the bad guy here. It's my fault I'm the favorite and all I do is disobey my mom because I'm an insolent ungrateful child.
I hate myself at this moment.
I've been invited to go to New York City with some friends and have requested the days off from work and have said yes I will go. I've almost talked to all my teachers and I've talked to my parents. After this conversation I just want to tell everyone I won't go and instead use the money I've saved up to get ahead on my bills, or to pay one of my own school payments. Part of me thinks I should stop going out on weekends, just concentrate on school and paying all my bills. The maybe I won't be such a horrible person.
I know how that sounds. I'm just semi-depressed lately and this conversation with my Mom's made everything seem worse.